Three Little Jewells

A little more on submission…
While we’re talking on submission, especially as it relates to Mr. Steadies, I’ll share something I need to work on.

As a “steady” type, dh would be absolutely mortified to be seen as a tyrant.   And I have to admit, I’m ashamed, but I sometimes take advantage of his good nature and his desire to be nice, go with the flow, etc.  There’s lots of times that I know he wouldn’t want to do something but if I ask him, he’ll do it anyway, go along with it, etc.   How horrid is that? A part of submission, for me, is choosing not to ask for something that I know is not what he really wants but he’ll go along with it if I ask.  (that was an awkward way to word it, sorry, it’s late)
I can’t think of any really good examples to illustrate this point.  Like, if I wanted to go out to dinner but I knew he didn’t feel like it and was really tired from a long day at work.  If I tell him I’d like to go out for dinner, he’ll say okay, but I know it’s not what he really wants to do.
This is an area I really need to improve in- I should not be taking advantage of his good nature.

I think I’ve been doing really well on being thankfull for all that he has provided for us, something that is also important to “steadies”.  Also, earlier this summer, I participated in a “marriage challange” over at the Raising Godly Tomatoes message board that did wonderful things for us.   Every day, for 30 days, you do three things:
1. pray for your dh
2. initiate hf
3. share something good about dh with someone else or keep a list of good things about dh, adding something new every day.  (Helps with learning to be thankful for your dh).